I can’t find my cookbook…..

I know that I have been missing from the Blog scene for a while.  My plan was to have several blog posts per week, to be a huge encouragement to many of you and to get everyone excited about new things.  Well stop the train and let me off!!!!….

What happened to me is just crazy and somewhat simple to fix.  I needed to just get off the train….even jump if I needed to ….even when it doesn’t stop for me!!

If you have read any of my other posts than you will know how crazy my life is.  Seizures, Epilepsy, ADHD, Autism, full-time working mom, special needs wife and mom, blogger, speaker and the list goes on. But in addition to my normal crazy life I have been adding too many “sure I can help” etc… things to my schedule.

Life took over so much so that the “life train” ran so fast that I could not see what was happening to me.  I was simply enjoying life with my family, my work, my ministry…..but I kept on going, going and going.  My days would start at 5:30 am with getting up….then at work most days by 7 am.  Then home at 3 pm to pick up my son and husband and head out to an event that was carefully planned and something that we wanted/needed to do.  Next… run out for dinner….run to the next event, food shop, or help out someone else in need.  Then home anywhere from 9-11 pm…..change into PJ’s…..layout work clothes for the next day….hit the hay. Then start all over again. We have a phrase that we use all the time in our home….it is “drop and go”….we come in and “drop off” bags, misc things etc…. and then pick up the next several items that are needed and “go” to next event.

You can only do this so long….as I have been finding out. I found out how bad it had gotten for me when I went to make a recipe and I could not find my cookbooks.  On this day I stood in the room where they had been…then I remembered oh yes  …we moved them. So I looked and looked everywhere and I could not find them.  I felt like I totally lost the connection with my home, as a wife and as a mother….. how did I not know where something so simple was not where it was supposed to be. I walked away feeling down, discouraged and useless as the woman of my home.  You ask …was this simply all because of cookbooks?….Yes, this was a picture of who I had become and where my crazy life had brought me.

STOP the train and let me off I needed to spend the next few days reviewing why I had no idea even in my own small home, why I could not find my cookbooks.  What in the world was going on with me?  I thought maybe I am was just getting old, maybe I just needed a day off, maybe….maybe….NO, I had to take a good hard look at my schedule and make some major changes.

If you look at my planner….it is color coded, lines, circles, arrows pointing to numerous things.  Sticky notes on top of sticky notes with notes of “must do’s”, place to go, things to get done and some events noted that we have 3 or more things schedule at the same day and or time.

Well….the verse kept coming to me that I heard on a mini devotion from Andrea Mills on her You-Tube channel.  She explained the verse….”A wise woman builds her home….and a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands”.  Me talking to me….”Lynn grab hold”, stop the train, stop and write down priorities and what is really important to you! Right now for me it is important to stop being so involved in everything and regroup and gain control over the little things like cookbooks in my home.  This makes me happy, it makes me a better wife and mother, and it makes me a better Lynn.

I need to limit my “yes I can”…”sure I can add that to my schedule” etc.…. My husband and I sat down this week and reviewed what I need to tweak and reorganize in my life to satisfy both myself and our family. I must say that my life is not my own. My husband due to health issues cannot drive, and my son is too young and has autism and is not able to drive. So this puts me as the only driver. So the times where I would like to stay at home and get things done but they need to get to an event, puts me back in the drivers seat so my schedule becomes overloaded at times and not by choice. So updating my schedule, will not necessarily be an easy task with all that I need to include. And I go back to the verse in Proverbs… A wise woman builds her home and the Lord says if you lack wisdom ASK.  So I can pray, I can wait for the Lord to direct my steps, I can receive counsel from my husband and review my family’s needs and be the wise woman in my home that I have been called out to be! 

Hopefully….some of these changes in my life and schedule will allow me to blog and share some goodies along my life’s journey with you.  I still go back to my claim to fame….”I found my norm and it is a moving target”.  This seems to be a never ending reality in my life. Read my blog post about this if you haven’t already.

I would love to hear your comments where your life has brought you, and the changes that you have been able to make. What steps did you take along the way? Leave a comment below, and thank you for visiting with me today! 

 

Lynn A. C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

 

 

 

 

 

Planner = sanity = a better me…..

 

file_000I am a creative person in most everything that I do!!  I love to create new recipes, decorate my home and then redecorate it again and again. And who can forget….scrap-booking, tole painting, card making, any type of paper crafting, quilling, quilting and so many other wonderful outlets.

With being a wife of an Epileptic husband and a mom of an Autistic son…. my days do not always allow me the time or frame of mind to create in the above areas that I mentioned.  I also work full-time and home-school our youngest…while doing that, I am also involved in support groups, and many ministries in and outside of my home. So a planner is a practical tool for me…. but also a much-needed outlet for me.  But I have now learned to enjoy on a smaller scale the joy of be part of the planner community and to decorate my planner.  This is an outlet that can allow me to create on days when I need to do  mindless work, and a simple creative opportunity.

To some of my family and friends…they find this just plan nuts!!!  I have always used a planner since my first job and the start of my career.  Even back then 30 years+ ago…I would add a sticker, or doodle in it with a flower or two.  I loved the look when I would open my calendar and see the art work next to the event or schedule I needed to attend.

Move forward 30+ years….and the planner community has allowed me a whole new way to create.  Are you part of it?  Have you been bitten by the planner bug?  file_004Does the smell of stickers and does pen ink excite you?  Is going to the Dollar Tree and finding a new sickly note a highlight of your day…..well it is for me and many others. Just watching my Facebook groups with new hauls and new items from Etsy and the “DT”….is so much fun.

I will share in another blog post the breakdown of my planners and how I currently use them….but this was just a quick preview of what I like to use for my daily planner. My work schedule, my daily activities, my to-do list and other misc. dates to remember are in my Mini Happy Planner.  This is a new style of planner for me this year and I am loving it!!!!!!

Here are a few pics of some of my favorite items and a picture of a before and after for both a monthly and weekly spread before the pen.file_000

Reply below and tell me how you use your planner…..what items do you like to use in it?  What is your favorite pen to use? Oh yes send pics too!!!!!

 

Lynn A.C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

Just Start…..

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As I sit here today…I am thinking about why we are afraid to do what we like.  Have you ever sat and realized that you don’t like the place you are in, the job, the apartment, the place you are in because of your own
attitude and fears.  Why do we get stuck here?

I have been listening to John Maxwell….on ”The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth”file_0011 on Right Now Media.  WOW…personal growth is not easy but so needed.  I am at a point in my life where I feel like I am no longer needed anywhere.  Let me explain a little….at work, I have done that, been there and feel like I have given of my experience, talents and skills, some days I don’t know if I am even a help there anymore. At home my oldest is grown and married and doesn’t need mom most of the time…as it should be.  My youngest is getting older and he is showing me daily that he needs me less and less….this too is as it should be.  My husband is off and running in new directions that life is taking him on and I am so happy for him. He is overdue for life to take him in these new and exciting challenges!!! He has sat on the side lines for far to long waiting for a new direction for him and now he is finding it.  In general what I did and where I have been in life seems to be dull and not very challenging anymore.

So where does this leave me?  I am searching for the next phase of my life.  Being a wife of a disabled husband keeps me busy but being a wife with a husband who is soaring in life ‘s experiences right now is different for me. Being a mom of an adult son who is married and doesn’t need me as much, is different for me.  Being a mom with a special needs son has it challenging days….but with him growing into a young man and not needing me as much …is different.  Having my “normals’ not being normal any more (read my blog “I found my normal and it is a moving target”)…..is different for me.file_003

Ok…ok…am I being told that “I have a new normal” but what is it?  How do I find it?  …..I heard the best advice today from John Maxwell…..”JUST START”.  So this is where life has me….at the starting line of life with almost everything I once knew…. and still do know….but in a different way!

Follow me on my new journey as I post new adventures and stories with the things I will try.  One thing I am determined to do this year is to try something new a few times over.  Where that will take me I dfile_000on’t really know yet…but it will be fun finding out.

Are you in this same place in life?  What are you doing about it?  I would love to hear your story….comment below and share it with me!

Lynn A.C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

My House Might Be Messy… But The Coffee Pot Is Always On….

I find myself so busy these days and yet I also find myself reaching out to others more and more. Maybe it is because that I see a need in others as well as my self. Many years ago I had a friend who grew up in a poor family.  She recalls that there was always a pot of soup cooking on the stove top for dinner. Her mother always made the remark….”let’s not forget to add a little extra water this time”.  She would continually ask her mom….why do we need to always add the water, and her moms reply was…” because you never know who might stop by and need to chat and we will offer them dinner too”.

What an inspiration for me!!

To think she was ready for a unannounced guest.  What would you do if someone came knocking tonight?  Would you have to run around and hide those things no one should see?  Would you have to turn off the TV for the shame of what you are watching?  Would you just not feel like talking and maybe not even answer the door? Stop and really think with me for a moment….if an guest came over unannounced what would you do?

I have family and friends that when I have knocked they greeted me on the door step and we chatted there.  I was never asked in, I never felt welcomed.  The “Pop-In” visit can make you feel like you have invaded someones territory.
Ever since I heard that soup story….I don’t have a pot of soup on but… I do tell my friends img_0330and family that ” the house might be mess but the coffee pot is always on”.  We have had so many friends pop in, visit, take a meal with us etc…. We love to hear feed back like….”when I visit you house it is a home”, “I feel welcomed”, “WOW…..it fells like a safe haven”, “I love the way your house smells”… (candles burning, coffee pot on etc….) and other wonderful remarks like this. I have told my kids that this house is not ours…the Lord gave it to us and we need to use it for Him.  I remember the night we moved into the current house we are in ….my husband made us bow our heads and thank God for it and asked Him to use it for His work.
What has happened to the gift of hospitality?  What has happened to the gift of friendship?  The Bible speaks clearly on both of these matters and since the Bible has not changed why have we changed?
  • Do you have this gift?
  • Do you enjoy having people over?
  • Do you enjoy being an encouragement?
  • Do you enjoy serving the Lord?

Did the Lord give you a gift of a home that you know you should be using for Him?

We should use our gift of hospitality and be the type of person who have the attitude of an “Open Home”….we then would make others feel welcome.  I have spent many hours sharing a cup of coffee or tea with a friend and we have had some life cimg_1571hanging moments from it.  When we have a friend who needs a hug, a smile, a simple kind word…are you one of the first people they think of?

Do they consider your home a place where they feel like kicking off their shoes, having a cup of coffee, curling up on the couch and sharing their hearts?

My mother always told me that you can never tell when an angle might knock at your door for some hospitality.  Have I entertained angles in my home.  Just think of that!!!

The gift of hospitality doesn’t mean that you need a fancy home, lots of pretty things, lots of money or fancy food.  It is an attitude that you create when people enter your home through the front door ( that means ….yes you need to let them in!).
Roman 12:14
Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.

I Peter 4:9 a

Show hospitality to one another without grumbling….

Luke 10:38 b

….a woman named Martha opened her home to Him.

Hebrews 13:1-2

Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters.  Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.

Ladies, I know some of us work out of the home and also need to take care of our homes and family in addition.  I know life is crazy with the kids and schedule.  But we need to share this gift with each other.  It is time to dig out those teacups that grandma gave you, wash the coffee mugs, buy a few items to stash in the pantry to serve when someone pops in.  Sweep the dirt off timg_0328he porch and have the coffee pot ready.  You know never know….I might coming popping in on you one day soon for a chat!!!

Come join with me and start a few trend of “HOSPITALITY on the Rise”, make this gift a gift again!

Leave me a comment below and tell me how you have entertained and made people feel welcomed in your home.  Let me know if you are willing to join with me and to use this gift that we have been given.  I would love to hear from you!!!

Lynn A.C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

Modern Day Working Mama with a homespun twist and a dash of special needs and disabilities – a life of adventure a constant new norm!

A life filled with Routine or a Life of Adventure…..

img_0775I am a Modern Day Working Mama with a homespun twist and a dash of special needs and disabilities – a life of adventure with a constant new norm. 

 I just love to watch people and how they live their lives, I try to figure out why they do what they do and I learn about what I like and don’t like and how I want to live my life. It got to thinking today when I watched three people who are in my life…and how they are living their lives, and if I want to this that way. 

Do you ever people watch?  I have a friend who fullsizerender-2was
sharing witProcessed with MOLDIVh me that he and his wife where having a “discussion” about what to buy at the food store.  Now you might ask “what is the big deal”…but we have all been there. Discussing, fighting, arguing about which Ice Cream to buy, what brand of bread to get etc…. It sounds silly and it really is and yet we let this get to us.

I have another friend who has a very, very structured life.  She maps out her life in increments of time and activities.  She will work her 8 hours and 8 hours only.  We will plan for evening after work, to take on one task which can include baking. When she goes home….she will prep, bake, clean up and call it a night. Mind you I would be washing dishes, doing a load of wash, listening to a You-Tube channel and stirring the pot for dinner …all while baking.  Her life is so planned out and she never deviates from this.

I have another friend who as I would like to say…gets upset over a pen falling on the floor.  She is wound up so timg_1913ightly that everything in life seems to bother her.  She can bully anyone in her path for the smallest thing they have done wrong and yet if you try to talk to her about anything she will burst into tears with fits of anger.  Yikes!!!

I have two other women in my life who I admire for the way they adapt to life.  Both of them deal with a “special needs” situation in their life.  One seems to run with ease …I know she will tell you that is not the case, but to me she does.  The other friend seems to just live life and take on new adventures anytime they pop in her life.

Now getting back to a life of structure or a life full of adventure…..well, you probably guessed it, I will take the life of adventure.  Yes it can be filled with chaos at times, it can be filled with half done jobs, dishes in the sink, laundry not done and drive-through for dinner. But life is too short to worry about a pen dropping on the floor, it is too short to worry about which ice cream or bread to buy and it is too short not to taste life at its finest.

If you have read my story and the journey that I am on….my life is never normal and it is always a moving target to finding a new normal.  I am a “Modern Day Working Mama with a homespun twist and a dash of special needs and disabilities – a life of variety a constant new norm”!!!img_9065

I work full-time, I am involved in three distant ministries, I homeschool, I am a mom of a special needs son, I am a wife of an epileptic,  I am a mom of adult children, I am a women who strives to live out her dreams, I am a women who loves to blog, craft, scrapbook, be a planner nerd, try new things, travel, make homemade soups, decorate her home and much, much more.

Some people ask with delight how do I do it all….they watch me on Facebook and see how full my life is.  Some watch with judgement and question all that I do and wonder if my life should be more structured.  Some watch with wonder and they would love to live this way but are afraid to step out and try it.

Now my dishes do get washed, and my laundry gets done…..we don’t run around in dirty cloths. I do stay at home and with a task list in hand at times and “try and get more organized”. fullsizerenderYet on the other hand….life keeps calling, new places to see, new things to taste, new adventures to try with my family.  I have people to meet, lives to encourage, people to share great experiences with, people to mentor, people to learn from and a whole lot of life to LIVE.

What Journey are you on? What path have you chosen to live? This is your life and your choice to make…..what do you like “structure”, “wound up tight”, or “a little chaos”?  Tell me your story in the comment below…I would love to hear from you today.img_0921

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Lynn A.C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

Modern Day Working Mama with a homespun twist and a dash of special needs and disabilities – a life of adventure a constant new norm!

Ringing in the New Year….. How depression and FEAR had taken over … learning to adapt and changing my perspective!

 

For years….and I am not sure why exactlring-in-the-new-yeary, the New Year was one of the most depressing times for me and I could not handle the midnight celebration that comes with New Year’s Eve.

When I was a kid….we would always go to my Aunt Kay’s house with lot and lots of munchies and tons of food …of course was one of the favorite parts of the evening.  As kids it was also a treat to hang out with the cousins and stay up past midnight and not get told that it is past our bedtime. Another great part of the evening was…the memories of my mom and her 5 sisters dancing together to the “oldies” music.  I absolutely loved watching them dance around as if they were young school girls again while giggling together.  Even today when that type of music is playing somewhere….I have those wonderful fond memories pop into my head.

My teen years….well we had a great night of food, games, memories, shared stories, songs and a message at church.  We were renting a local school gym and I can remember it as if it were yesterday…carrying all the chairs, tables, food and decor in and out for these events. memories as well.

Then during my college and career age ….I would hang out with my friends and have a get together at someone’s house and play games until the wee hours of the morning.tree-of-depression

When I became a mom and my hours and my husband’s hours at work changed……each year would be something different from year to year and what event we could attend.  I am not really sure where the depression for the New Year came from but I do remember it being such a rough time ….not being able to deal with it when it came on. I am not trying to make light of the depression but I am not going to dwell on it and or the details of this horrific time for me. It was a bad time but learning to move on is one thing I have had to do. I do believe FEAR and the ripple effect it can have over our lives played a big role in this for me.

My husband said one year when he saw me almost loose it…..while I was watgo-to-bedching the clock tick and turn towards midnight….”why not just go to bed”.  It was like an epiphany.  Why not just go to bed?  Why did I not just think of that. Just think I could go to bed and wake up the next day and keep going and not dwell on the fact that at 12:01 AM the new year arrived.

After doing this for several years….. (Of course he would sit up and watch the ball drop in NYC for himself), I adjusted back to “normal” or at lease my normal….. and was able to deal a little better with the whole New Year’s Eve thing.

This past year in 2016 ….was a year that I entered into feeling like it was going to a year of challenges, new beginnings, and a full year of events.  That it was!!!

God had prepped me for this in a small way by preparing my mind with these feelings noted above.  It was by far one of the toughest years for us.  It was the first year without my father-in-law on this earth. It was a full year of firsts for things at church, at my work, with my Autistic son with some of his new norms and a year full of many, many , many….seizures with my husband. It was probably the most challenging year in our almost 30 years of marriage.

As I reflect back…..I realize that when I wrote my first blog…..”Normal is a moving Target”, how true this statement is in my life. And how far in many areas of my life I have learned to adapt and have a fresh new perspective!

My families “normal” would not be normal to most.  I don’t think that I ever make plans that pan out in the way we even ever thought they would.  I am sure many of you also feel the same way.

john-15-7This year again New Year’s Eve came and went but with a different twist.  I have to say I am a BIG fan of Dave Boyer and he was in concert for New Year’s Eve where I work.  Just think of that…..I was able to work and see him in concert at the same time….oh boy did this bring back some childhood memories of the “oldies” and my mom and her sisters..  What a treat for us and then we headed home around 11 pm and you guessed it, “I went right to bed”, before midnight could set in.

The next day of course was New Year’s Day 2017.  I worked 7-3 that dafile_000-6y and when I got home my hubby said let’s go out and grab a bite to eat at the new local restaurant called the Mellow Mushroom. You might have one near you.  Well, what a great place….it is on my favorites list!!!.

Now I saved the best part of my story for last!!! That same day my hubby and had our devotions separately and both felt we were given a verse by the Lord.  Mine was John 15:7 and my husbands was I Timothy 3:15 -17.  As we were walking out of the house to head to dinner we were sharing this with each other.  As we walked towards the van the night sky was so full of stars…..so brightly lit like we have not seen in years since we were kids.  The North Star was actually twinkling and the moon seemed to shine right around it, as if it was talking to us.  We both looked up and at the same time…..spoke out loud the word “HOPE”.  Nothing mystical happened at the moment….but for us….we felt like the Lord was giving us that very moment in time of a clear chance to see HIS handiwork.  It was a little sign to us …..that this night’s evenings sky was just for us. It was a clear sign and direction for us to continue claiming our verses He gave us, and that this would be a year filled with hope.women-of-faith

We took that special moment in time, the 2 bible verses and a few other things that happened on that day and called it “the most encouraging New Year’s day that we have ever had”.

Happy New Year everyone….share your story of how you enjoyed your New Year’s Eve and or what the Lord has shown you already in this New Year of 2017.

Lynn Wilson – Resume of a Mother

 

Simple Traditions that mean the most…..

I love watching the Walton’s on TV and I now own the entire set of each season. This TV show was during a time that many know as, “The Great Depression”… here is the USA, back in history, in the late 1920’s and into the early 1930’s. cameron-family

Do you ever feel like “life” has taken a life of its own and …..just taken overyour life and tcopy-of-file_000-2here is no time for anything anymore.  The more I try to tweak things and slow things down …the busier I seem to get.  I laugh at times…we love to “check-in” and document what we do on Facebook.  I will show up to work or meet someone at an event and the first thing they will say to me is …..”How do you do all that you do?”

Now, if you know my life or have followed my blog….you know that I am a working full-time mom, homeschool my youngest, I am a mom of an Autistic son, a wife of an epileptic husband, and involved in many, many homeschool, support groups, church events and activities.  Yes, we stay extremely busy!!! We have friends that work and go home and call it a day.  The thought of going out and doing anything after work is way too much for them to handle.  I would ask them….how do you not go out after work?  There is so much in life to experience and enjoy ….how do you not what to try to enjoy something new and different or have some fun with the small old thing that you like so much.

Now….getting back to simple traditions… grandpa-cameronthat mean the most, what does this mean to you?  Even though we are very busy doing things, we are learning more and more that being busy with people and making memories is where it is at for us!!!  We love things like home decor, we love to collect things and so on……not to say that there is anything wrong with that, but we have found for us and at this stage of life that “those things” have just taken on a whole new meaning.  We have begun to change our way of life and not collect and accumulate so many things but to make choices of what we do like and really want to keep etc…  I have also begun to take pictures of some of my treasures and journal the story behind them in a scrapbook.  My kids don’t want my “things” ….this seems to be the new trend of the “Millennials” and the “Gen Y”.  So then the question is ….what do we do with all this stuff?  Well, I decided to get rid of a lot and make room not only in my house but in my life for new memoires that are not made of things, but events, people, and trips etc…..

When I watch the Walton’s….I watch a family who enjoyed the simple things in life.  They didn’t need much!!! They didn’t need things……as a matter of fact anyone that I talked to from this generation refer to this time (that is during the depression); a time when things were simple and sometimes they even say “the good old days”.

What is the secret to this special time in their life…..well let me share a few stories that have inspired me to make a change in my own life!

  • Popcorn Sunday – you ask what is this…..well, how about popcornfile_000-2 for dinner.  I met a family that said they would make a big deal on Sunday night and call it “Popcorn Sunday”. They had very little money and food during the depression…so popcorn was cheap and available to them so this is what they would eat.  But yet the memories of this night still exists to this day and guess what they enjoy eating on a Sunday night still…you guessed it…”Popcorn”.
  • Scrumple– now what is this?  My dad grew up in the depression time too…..they had next to nothing…they would make toys from boxes, sticks and a bit of string would they might find lying around.  My Dad’s memories of this time are referred to over and over file_000-3again and he smiles and is uplifted every time he talks about it.  On Saturday night….with a family of 7 and no money, my grandfathercopy-of-file_000-1 would create “Scrumple”for dinner (a name they made up for this dish).  This would consist of every little bit of any type of leftovers from that week.  They would get out the big black cast iron skillet and dump in all the little leftover bits and then cover it with oatmeal.  They would they fry it up and a gourmet meal, or at least that is how my dad remembers it, was created.
  • Crackers – how can this be a memory?  I have a friend who grew up in a very poor country where there was not only a lack of money but of food too.  No milk, no flour….not much of anything while she grew up.  She was sharing with me the other night that there where nights when they would each get 2 cracfile_000-1kers for dinner and they were grateful for just that little bit.  There was not an option to ask for more….there was no more in the cabinet.  As a matter of fact there was not a refrigerator or even a stove in the home.  Any yet, the memories of these crackers kept her humble and thankful for every little thing she has to this day.

I know that some people would think I am crazy for thinking this but… I think that the time during the depression is something that we all should have lived through.  It seems to have taught that generation of people for the most part….not to worry about the little things, be grateful for the little things, enjoy what you have, don’t wastes things, be creative, be resourceful and so much more.

Where are we today with things and stuff…..we have more than we would ever use!  We are not a grateful people; we want more and more and yet need nothing.  We complain about things we have no right to complain about.

Well, I will, as they say get off my soap box now… I am speaking to myself too on this matter.  I am now trying to enjoy the little things and create traditions that will have a life time of memoires for my family to share.  So much so that for dinner sometimes we have had a bowl of popcorn, I have learned to use all my little bits of leftovers to make a big pot copy-of-file_000-2of homemade “kitchen soup”… and we have even had crackers and jelly for a meal on occasion.  Trying something new is good and by doing these things….it has reminded me of the friends and family that have taught me life lessons through their stories.

Simple Traditions ….can defiantly mean the most and create some of the best times of our lives and give us the best memoires to share with our families.

Did you live through times like these?  Do you have some great memories to share with us?  I would love to hear from you in the comments below.  Tell us about your favorite simple traditions, tell us about your story during the depression….tell us something that you do to keep great memoires in a simple way for your family.

Thanks for reading my Blog today!!!

Lynn A. C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

#Beating the Odds…..My Story of Epilepsy.

Well…..here we are at the end of Epilepsy Awareness Month.  You have heard from me on being the wife of an Epileptic and what is the like for a spouse.  Now let me intro you to my husband who has Epilepsy.  He has struggled with this since the age of 12…he has been my husband for 30 years and has raised two sons, he worked at one point in the medical field, he drove a car, and he was very involved in many areas of life…and now find out where life has left him.  Grab a cup of coffee and take the time to read his story ….right from someone who struggles with a chronic illness daily and sometimes hourly but has found a life within this life and is #beating the odds.

resumeofamother_familyI really appreciate the opportunity to tell my story of Epilepsy in my life and what is like to live this life daily and hourly! Find out firsthand the life that some of us live and how I have adapted to a new norm.

For me it started many years ago… I guess I was about 10 years old. I had been asked to stay after school because of a problem.  I actually had been in trouble at school for something  … so when it was time to leave I jumped on my bike to ride home but I did it in anger.

When I got to the traffic light it was green for me…..but the car on the other side had a red light, and did not stop.  Needless to say the car hit me and I went flying into the windshield with my head getting hit. I can only recall half way across the road and then waking up in the hospital.

Well I was pretty beat up with a dislocated my clavicle, got a big bump on my head and chipped my front tooth.  They decided to keep me in the hospital for a couple of days under observation.  At that time they could only diagnose me with what they thought was broken …the seizures were not noted yet.  It wasn’t until a few years later that I had my first observed seizure…and that is where my story begins….

I sensed things from time to time….but it was not something that I could really explain.  Not knowing that I had a problem…..I just dealt with it the best I could.  It was a hard thing…not being able to explain to anybody what I was feeling or going through.

Not knowing what a seizure was ….I did not know what was wrong with me.  It wasn’t until years later at college that I had a large enough seizure and finally got the help that I needed.  After that….my life completely changed. One major thing that changed was that…. I learned quickly how people will treat you differently when they do not understand what is going on!  People that treated me normal…such as family and friends….now treated me like the hardly even knew me.

People will avoid you for fear that something might happen while you are with them, they are afraid of what to do.  People will just not talk to you since they don’t know what to say.  People will talk about you only feet away as if you can’t hear them…..and yes I can hear you.  They will ask my wife a question to avoid actually talking to me.  I have said to my wife that it’s kind of ironic how some people seem to be able to understand if you have a sugar problem or something else wrong…and they seem to be able to cope with that better than people with a seizure problem. Don’t be afraid of us…..we are just like you with added personality in our life.

People are educated and seem to know the steps on how to care for a person that has a sugar attack or similar …..But when somebody has a seizure… people panic!!!!

I will say that it affects every area of your life, but I will not let it have power over me!!!

A quotation that has always motivated me is and that I live by…

“Look for the good times along the way .You can’t put off enjoying life, waiting for the day when epilepsy is no longer an issue.”

 – Diane H. (Mother of patient)

Epilepsy has affected my marriage in many different areas.  It has affected how I am as a father to my two sons and now daughter-in law. My sense of self-worth is something that I struggle with all the time and trying to fit in the mold of husband and father…..my self-worth takes a back seat.

It is hard to copy-of-file_0001be the head of my home, and someone who my wife can depend on ….because many times my thoughts are not clear. I have days where I know exactly what is going on and then many days where I have to just depend on my wife and children to help direct me.  As a man that is something that is unspeakably hard for me.

After years of struggling and many situations with my seizures…..It has gotten to the point where I finally had to go on full-time disability.  Let me tell you from again a husband/fathers point of view….. it was a definite low point in my life and it took me a long time to get over it!!

I have found that having seizures has given me a unique perspective on life.  I can relate to many people who struggle with chronic illness.  The most useful perspective is with my youngest son who has Autism. Both he and I struggle neurologically with many things, I can so relate to him when no one else can.  This has been a huge blessing for him and also for my wife. It gives her a sense of security…knowing that someone can honestly understand some of what our son goes through.  There are times when both he and I have reacted to things because of our neurological problems and we can relate to each other.  For instance when the weather is stormy… I know it’s going to be a rough day for me, and I know that it’s going to be a tough day for him as well.

One true blessing in the last three years of my life has been the moving to a new church!  I have found a Pastor who accepts me …just as I am.  He is aware that I have epilepsy…yet he is willing to work with me and in doing so this has brought back my confidence and self-worth that I had lost. He always keeps an eye on me and he might come over and say “are you okay?” but I know he has my best interest at hand.  By him leading this way….it has shown the church that I am ok….it has allowed the church family to feel relaxed around me and my family.

It is still difficult though in many other ways. There are many times I have to use an electric scooter rather than walk and worry that I might fall at storecopy-of-file_0008s or other places.

I am blessed have a wonderful wife and family, as well as a strong support group in my church… and some good friends who I can depend on.  I would recommend to anybody that has any kind of health problems whether it is epilepsy or any other chronic illness to make sure that you have a good support group in your life…it WILL make a difference.

How can you help me and others with chronic illnesses….

  1. Don’t stare
  2. Don’t avoid me/us….come talk to me/us.
  3. Don’t talk as if we are not in the room.
  4. Don’t treat us like we are weird.
  5. Don’t act like if you touched us we will seize on you or that you will catch what we have.
  6. Treat us normal!!!!
  7. Treat us with respect!!!
  8. Remember we were created to be a unique person and to carry out the work that God intended. Don’t Judge us for that.
  9. Remember that people with illnesses are not being punished for past sins!
  10. Most of all remember we are a human being with families, lives and feelings. Treat us the same way you would like to be treated.

Feel free to comment below if I can help you in any way.  My wife and I would love your feedback and to hear from you.

Thank you for letting me share my story and if you have not read her Blog yet on being the “Wife of an Epileptic”.…check that article out too.

Graeme M Wilson I – Husband of Resume of a Mother

Planner Nerd, Planner Community, Planner Goodies….

Are you a planner Nerd?…

With life being as crazy as it is…I really don’t know how people live without a planner.  Now planners come in all shapes and sizes and those of us who would classify ourselves as part of the “planner community”, we love them all!

I started with a little pocket one that I received in the mail at age 19 and I soon refile_0009alized when I started working that this was the only thing that kept me out of trouble from double bookings.  I was working 3 jobs and of course trying to have a social life.  Now fast forward to 30+ years later and here I am still using a planner to keep my sanity….but even better… I use several.

Planners are part of my daily dress and essential to thfile_000e day and something that I would classify as an accessory.  In addition to classifying my planner as an accessory…I love bags (another sign of a planner nerd), earrings, scarves, shoes, bracelets and lipsticks (yes that was plural lipsticks).  A planner to me is my life line…not only for keeping my schedule in order, but I faithfully use an A – Z file system for basic notes I need to keep for lists, journal notes, important info you just don’t know where else to store it…. and so much more.

When I started out it was just a calendar and now as you can see I use it for so much more.  How do you use your planners?  Which kind(s) do you use? My favorite and my go to is a file_0006Purple Personal size Malden Filofax.  I must admit I am hooked on Filofax anything. I then use a faux Malibu by Franklin Covey for my house binder/planner; I have an A5 Color Crush for my blogs posts and a Travelers notebook that I tried using for my go to ….but now it stares at me for a purpose.  I also have a small pocket-size Target planner that I use for my church schedule, notes, and ministries that I am involved in.

My home office has turned into my planner office (or at least I like to think of it that way). Yes of course, the Dollar Tree and Target Dollar Spot and I have become good friends when I am looking for my planner goodies.  Speaking of planner goodies….anyone interested in a give a way?  See notes below….

I am obsessed with sticky notes, pens, and page flags….YIKES…I am a planner nerd!  I have a wonderful pen pal and we do an exchange every other month.  She lives in Europe so it is fun to exchange USA items and European items together and even though we have never met in person, I consider her a great friend.

My family and friends think I am nuts…and I probably am and that is just fine with me. Planners are fun for me and I enjoy not only using them in a practical way… but I am enjoying decorating them as most of you do too.  Washi tape is a stapfile_0005le in our home!  Stickers and any other goodies that I can use…help me be as creative as I want to be.  What goodies do you all use?  Where do you like to shop?

A few years ago, I became bored with the normal neat, schedule planner look and so the search began for me to find a new and different way to use my planner….and so it began. Once I watched You Tube…it  opened a world to me of planners, planner love and planner people which lead to Facebook groups for planners.

file_0008I began decorating and using this outlet as a quick creative way to fill my crafter need. Since my days are sooo busy these days and time is short for crafts and scrapbooking…this fills the gap.  I now enjoy scrapbooking and making junk journals which for me are much easier than the normal scrapbooking and  I love to use Travelers Notebooks for my junk journals. It keeps in small and neat and simple for me.

Well there you have it….my planner story. What is your story?  I would love to hear from you and all about your planners, goodies, where you shop, what planner you like the best and how you use them.   Leave a comment below and let me know.

Extra goodies are overflowing in my office with extra pens, sticky notes, andfile_0002 washi etc… They are piling up and in light of connecting with other planner buddies….I am going to do a give-a-way .  I am thankful for this creative outlet and I would like to bless someone with some goodies.

Here are the rules for the give-a-way:

  1. You must leave a comment below
  2. You must follow my blog
  3. You must live in the USA
  4. You must love planners

I am looking forward to seeing who wins….I will give you until December 24.  At that time I will pick a winner with the best story in the comments.

 

Lynn A. C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother