Finding Balance – When too Many Plates are Spinning

Are your plates spinning in life and are you overwhelmed where you are today?  Life for me seems to keep getting more and more busy, crazy and nuts.  Some days my plate is so full….that I don’t even know where to start.  The thoughts starts coming where do I start, work, home, kids, husband……and the sound in my head just keep going in circles.  I needed to STOP and listen for a moment and pray for wisdom.  The verse that says…. “a wise woman builds her home” became my reality.  I have learned over time to take 4 simple steps in life to keep some balance.  Balance and Simplicity is what you will find today in this message as you listen.  I hope you enjoy this special event with me!

 

Lynn A. C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

 

Autism…. Learning about the ”WE” and not the “I”

When you have a special needs person in your life, it is always a learning experience. As the saying I use goes, ”I found my new normal and it’s a moving target.” Our youngest son is now seventeen and it took me about twelve years to finally start to understand how he thinks. The funny thing is, once I started to get the ‘we not I’ way of thinking, it helped me understand why some of my extended family members act and react the way they do.

Let me explain a little. The bottom line is this, when you say to someone with Autism, ADD, ADHD or something similar that they need to be to bed earlier since they woke up so early that day, usually you get a fit and a large argument. But if you say that we all woke up early and we should all go to bed early, that one individual seems to calm down and agree with you.

In our home we have learned to be creative and use we more than I. Yes, some might say that we are giving in, but we say why have an argument when you can just change the wording and make life a little easier?

Do you struggle with a special needs family member? What have you been able to do with changing one or two words?

 

Here are some practical tips we use to help the day a little better:

Things to do and say:                                                   Things not to do or say:

Include yourself and talk as if you are a group.            Don’t single them out.

Speak clearly and only use the facts.                            Don’t use figures of speech.

Smile and be kind.                                                        Don’t joke, jokes can be insulting.

Make eye contact and smile.                                        Don’t expect the same in return.

Use kind speech and words.                                          Don’t yell or use harsh words.

Respect them as you would anyone.                             Don’t treat them with disrespect.

Remember God created them unique.                         Don’t treat them like they are weird.

 

We are all unique in our own way and have been wonderfully made. Your uniqueness might make you just as strange to someone else as they are to you.  Remember to be kind and respectful to each person you encounter. Most of the time we can navigate life much better that way.

Lynn A.C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

 

The Good Old Days

Philippians 2:14-15

“Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent.”

Colossians 3:15

“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.”

The Great Depression. This is a time in history that I can only read about.  I was not born in that time, but I can learn to appreciate what happened and what the way of life was.  Many times I have sat and listened to my dad talk about a meal called Scrumptial that his father would make for them on Saturday nights with the leftovers from that week. A unique pot of leftovers was the highlight of his week.

Recently I was listening to an older lady talk about living in the Depression era and she recalled one of her fondest memories. She remembered that on Sundays they would go to her aunt’s house, but her aunt could not afford heat. So they would grab the kitchen chairs and huddle around the stove while lunch was cooking and get warm by the fire.  She went on to say that they would sit facing the stove to get the front of them warm and then have to turn around so their backs would get warm. As she talked about this she was giggling and repeating,”oh the good old days.”

Fast forward to 2020 and what do we have? Central air, heat in our homes, cars to drive, and so many other advantages. We have plenty of food, clothes, and almost everything we could want or need at our fingertips. Yet I never hear, “these are the great present days.” What has happened to us? Why do we not seem like a happy people?  You would think with all these “things” that make our lives more convenient and stress free that we would be overjoyed.

Many times I have said to my husband that I almost wish we could go back to time like that. A time when we as a people appreciated what we had. Working in a guest service position, I see the side of people that is ungrateful and demanding. I see this at church when we want what we want and demand our rights. What happened to being thankful, grateful, and appreciative?  I personally am challenged to look at what I have and learn to be content in these things and to appreciate them even more.

Lynn A. C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

 

Having balance in an unbalanced world as a wife and mother….

 

Have you ever been between a rock and a hard place trying to balance all the things you need to in life as a wife and mother?  Do you have extra things that get in the way and turn your world upside down?  My life is never the same and just when I think I have it figured out…..the rug goes out from under me.

So how do you find balance without going insane?  How do you find balance and still enjoy life?

Come and join me on my latest video and see how a mom, full-time working mom, wife , wife of a husband with a disability, careen women, home-school mom and a ministry leader finds some normalcy.

Lynn A. C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

Welcome to my home and life…

Life is definitely a journey and an adventure if you know anything about me. Every day brings new and exciting things and also some overwhelming moments. For the past two weeks my husband has had two major falls from having seizures which led him to be in the chiropractor’s office 2 to 3 times a week plus having to have physical therapy and wear a back brace.

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Because of this we decided to take a quick weekend away that we called a Saturday vacation. While on this vacation he had a seizure, his scooter that he uses to get around in large places died in the middle of the museum. This led to us having to push it out of the museum, to loading it in the car manually, and causing me to be completely overwhelmed and having to have a good cry.

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If you asked me is it all worth it I’d say 100%. If you asked me what I marry this man again I would tell you absolutely 100%. He is the man of my dreams and if he comes with an extra package called epilepsy …I wouldn’t change a thing. Now having said all that… I have stated over and over it many times that I have found “my new normal and it’s a moving target”. so what does all of this mean, for me there is no normal, normal is only for a moment and that changes again. And I am OK with that. I’ve had to learn to be OK with that… Otherwise I would not have survived life and all that has been part of it.

This is made me in the long run realize how precious life is, it is giving me the desire to encourage other women and their walk and their journey, it is also encouraged me to invest in peoples lives whenever I can.

But having said all that… I have a new journey in life and an adventure and that is my YouTube channel. Come and join me and come and visit me and see what this crazy life entails. I hope you will find encouragement along the way, maybe some new ideas that you’ve never thought of before, maybe a few laughs, but most of all I hope that you leave feeling a little bit better about yourself, a little bit more encouraged than when you first started to visit with me.

Lynn A. C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

YouTube Channel name: “At Home with Lynn Wilson”



The Journey that Saved the World

I am about to teach this coming Friday to a group of young people at our church called Discovery Kids.  The ages range from three to fourteen. Trying to incorporate enough information to keep them all interested in the devotion can be hard at times. We as a church have committed to reach out to our neighborhood kids, and share each week with them that Jesus loves them.

This weekend the topic is “The Journey that Saved the World.”  We have gone with an overall theme this year of the “Olympics.” Teaching the kids about preparation, endurance, and finishing the race.  So let me take you on the journey that I have prepared for the kids.

  • Preparation:
  1. In order for Joseph and Mary to hear the call of the Lord, they needed to be prepared and walking close with Him.
  2. Then when the angel came and told them what was to happen, they needed to prepare for the journey.
  • Endurance:
  1. Because they prepared they would be able to endure the journey.
  2. They knew that God called them to do this task, so they needed to endure no matter how hard the journey would become.
  • Finishing the Journey:
  1. When they got to Bethlehem the journey was not done. They needed to find lodging, a safe place to deliver baby Jesus, and prepare the area for the baby to come.
  2. Once the baby was born, they could look back and see that they prepared for a work to be done. They could see that they endured the journey they had to go on to get to the place where He needed them to be, and then they needed to deliver the baby to finish the task.
  • What can we learn from this….
  1. We need to be ready and prepared for when He calls us to do a job.
  2. We need to know that we will need to endure the journey and that it might not be easy all the time.
  3. We need to know that when the journey is over that we can look back with joy. We completed what was asked of us.

We also can look at the fact that when we prepare and answer the call, endure the journey, and finish it. that it is not only us who are affected but many around us. A task given to us by the Lord always has layers to it. Our lives are not our own and we affect others all the time.

Mary and Joseph answering the call brought us a Savior (His divine plan). This Savior would ultimately be the one who would save the world. I am sure that Mary and Joseph had no idea the impact they would have on us today, thousands of years later.

Lynn A.C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

Dollar Tree Self – Care Products: Yup, at the Dollar Tree

So many of us are on a budget and/or just want to save money. You can go to the Dollar Tree and find some great self-care products. Here are a few that I found that I am in love with:

Face Wipes – great for a quick wipe of the face for refreshment or a morning routine. I like to use them after I shower..  I find that I do not get an oily face and the makeup stays on nice all day.

Essential Oil Roller Bottles – yes from the Dollar Tree too.  I am not an essential oils snob. I use what I like and what works for me.  These bottles are great and really do work!

Use peppermint for a perk in the afternoon. I like it best for relief of headaches.  I roll it on my temples, wrists, and the back of the neck for some quick relief.

Use lavender for a calming effect and sore muscles.

There are so many other wonderful options there as well.  Like anything that’s less expensive, you get some good and some bad.  These items I have found to be wonderful.

Let me know in the comments below what you have found that you really like.  Share with us what we can be on the lookout for at the Dollar Tree.

Lynn A.C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

Having a Tear in the Corner of Your Eye

I remember sitting in church as a kid and listening to Pastor Jack Fedalen preach.  I was only about twelve, but I can remember it like it was yesterday. His preaching was always dynamic, but more importantly he had a way of making you remember what his message was all about.

That day as I sat under his teaching, he reminded those of us who are believers that we should always have a tear in the corner of our eye.  Pastor Fedalen went on to say once you lose this, you have lost one of the most important things in life.

Today I was chatting with my son about several really cool God things that have happened over the past week.  It is almost overwhelming how many cool things have been happening. As I shared these things with him I watched his face soften, and the tear in the corner of my eye was real.

The Bible talks about how we need to be a witness to others and love them as we do ourselves. We need to feel the pain of others. The Bible also says that the angels rejoice when one soul is reached for Christ.  What I was sharing with my son was that my husband and I have been sharing with three couples about our relationship with the Lord. Then this past Wednesday I spoke to a group of over three hundred women at a mini conference. I was able to share my story and what the Lord means to me.  One phone call that I received today was about my message on Wednesday. She asked if she could use some of what I shared. She has family that need to know about Him and she felt that what I shared about eternity at the end of my message was just what they needed to hear.  

Again, that tear was in the corner of my eye. Being older, I can relate to what he was trying to tell us during that message years ago.  When we hear of the Lord’s work, His people, and when someone receives a relationship with the Lord, it is time to shout out loud and have a tear. The day that that tear is no longer there and we do not feel excited for these things is the day we have lost sight of what God is doing.  

So my question to you today is, are you watching what God is doing all around you?  Don’t meditate on the negative in this world. Regain your hope and the tear in the corner of your eye by keeping your eyes open for His work that is being done.

Here are a few verses for you to consider today for encouragement:

Galatians 6:2

Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

Luke 15:10

In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.