Fall Treats, Treasures & Decor!

I think the fall season is my favorite time of the year! Pumpkin pie, fall spiced candles and of course the movie “You’ve Got Mail”.

I love to hit the Dollar Tree… Target Dollar Spot, thrift stores and any other local stores for some new fall decor and goodies for the house.

The house is usually filled with faux pumpkins, lots of fall scented spice candles… And white twinkling lights throughout the house. Candles are lit every evening, mood lights are turned on… and we sit and enjoy some pumpkin spice coffee while watching a good movie. I have quilts and throws over the chairs to make it a cozy home for us to enjoy during this season.

Here is some of my new goodies for this year that I will be using around the house as well as some fun Fall day trips, and some adventures of the season. I love watching some of my YouTube friends who  I like to call my friends… and to see what they post on their channel, for some new Fall items that they get for their homes as well. It gives me some great ideas of what stores are selling each year and where they shop….before I head out to look for my goodies.

What do you use to decorate your homes? Do you have traditions that you do when it comes to decorating for the seasons? Send me some comments and pictures below so that I can get some ideas from you as well.

Lynn A. C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

Fall color trees are a Favorite!!!
NJ Fall skies are fantastic.
Hubbard Squash from the Amish country.
Crisp Fall leaves.
Family road trips
Scenic sites on road trips.
Seasonal produce.
Traditional places to visit.
Beautiful views from where I work.
Halloween fun times.
Fall harvest.
Pretty backdoor goodies.
New Fall centerpiece.
My famous pumpkin bread.
Harvest festivals.
Apple picking
Fall decor at local farms.
Sunflower patch.
Freshness

Bonfires
Friends gathering
Hayrides
Smores…Yummy

Autism and Routine….

Routine is something hard to create and stick with in our lives….but it is a necessary thing.  I watch a You-Tube channel with “Andrea Mills”.  She talks about doing things routinely if they are important enough to you. Check out her website and channel for this topic and more.

https://www.andreamills.tv

With any type of special needs and we have two types in our family, I find as a homemaker that I need to create a way of organization for them; and not necessarily for me.  With epilepsy and Autism in our home, I find that this affects everything that we do!  For example, just leaving the house to go out for the day…we need to make a list on the back door of what we need to bring with us.  This way my husband who has Epilepsy, whether it be a good day or not, does not have to think about what to bring. Especially when it is an “off” day for him, he just looks at his list on the door.

(example list for the door)

  • travel bag
  • pills
  • water bottle
  • phone
  • phone charger

For our son has Autism.…so for his needs we have created labels in the refrigerator and also a routine of where to put things.  This way there is no frustration of where things go.  We also labeled where all of our coats go.  Again, this way it keeps things simple and organized!

We have created a “white board” system to help with all those daily questions that you find Autistic kids always asking.  They want to know what the next days meals will be 24 hours ahead of time. Our board includes 3 meals, 3 chores, 3 school events (we homeschool), and whatever the special event of the day is also.

This has proven to relieve many meltdowns, and crazy evenings in our home.  When he asks the questions that he always does by 5pm sharp, we can just refer him to the white board.

Special needs can be a struggle to the caregiver as well as the person who struggles with it.  Why not make life as routine as you can to avoid any chaos and confusion.  There will always be other issues to deal with, but when things are routine it helps out a great deal.

Lynn A. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

I can’t find my cookbook…..

I know that I have been missing from the Blog scene for a while.  My plan was to have several blog posts per week, to be a huge encouragement to many of you and to get everyone excited about new things.  Well stop the train and let me off!!!!….

What happened to me is just crazy and somewhat simple to fix.  I needed to just get off the train….even jump if I needed to ….even when it doesn’t stop for me!!

If you have read any of my other posts than you will know how crazy my life is.  Seizures, Epilepsy, ADHD, Autism, full-time working mom, special needs wife and mom, blogger, speaker and the list goes on. But in addition to my normal crazy life I have been adding too many “sure I can help” etc… things to my schedule.

Life took over so much so that the “life train” ran so fast that I could not see what was happening to me.  I was simply enjoying life with my family, my work, my ministry…..but I kept on going, going and going.  My days would start at 5:30 am with getting up….then at work most days by 7 am.  Then home at 3 pm to pick up my son and husband and head out to an event that was carefully planned and something that we wanted/needed to do.  Next… run out for dinner….run to the next event, food shop, or help out someone else in need.  Then home anywhere from 9-11 pm…..change into PJ’s…..layout work clothes for the next day….hit the hay. Then start all over again. We have a phrase that we use all the time in our home….it is “drop and go”….we come in and “drop off” bags, misc things etc…. and then pick up the next several items that are needed and “go” to next event.

You can only do this so long….as I have been finding out. I found out how bad it had gotten for me when I went to make a recipe and I could not find my cookbooks.  On this day I stood in the room where they had been…then I remembered oh yes  …we moved them. So I looked and looked everywhere and I could not find them.  I felt like I totally lost the connection with my home, as a wife and as a mother….. how did I not know where something so simple was not where it was supposed to be. I walked away feeling down, discouraged and useless as the woman of my home.  You ask …was this simply all because of cookbooks?….Yes, this was a picture of who I had become and where my crazy life had brought me.

STOP the train and let me off I needed to spend the next few days reviewing why I had no idea even in my own small home, why I could not find my cookbooks.  What in the world was going on with me?  I thought maybe I am was just getting old, maybe I just needed a day off, maybe….maybe….NO, I had to take a good hard look at my schedule and make some major changes.

If you look at my planner….it is color coded, lines, circles, arrows pointing to numerous things.  Sticky notes on top of sticky notes with notes of “must do’s”, place to go, things to get done and some events noted that we have 3 or more things schedule at the same day and or time.

Well….the verse kept coming to me that I heard on a mini devotion from Andrea Mills on her You-Tube channel.  She explained the verse….”A wise woman builds her home….and a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands”.  Me talking to me….”Lynn grab hold”, stop the train, stop and write down priorities and what is really important to you! Right now for me it is important to stop being so involved in everything and regroup and gain control over the little things like cookbooks in my home.  This makes me happy, it makes me a better wife and mother, and it makes me a better Lynn.

I need to limit my “yes I can”…”sure I can add that to my schedule” etc.…. My husband and I sat down this week and reviewed what I need to tweak and reorganize in my life to satisfy both myself and our family. I must say that my life is not my own. My husband due to health issues cannot drive, and my son is too young and has autism and is not able to drive. So this puts me as the only driver. So the times where I would like to stay at home and get things done but they need to get to an event, puts me back in the drivers seat so my schedule becomes overloaded at times and not by choice. So updating my schedule, will not necessarily be an easy task with all that I need to include. And I go back to the verse in Proverbs… A wise woman builds her home and the Lord says if you lack wisdom ASK.  So I can pray, I can wait for the Lord to direct my steps, I can receive counsel from my husband and review my family’s needs and be the wise woman in my home that I have been called out to be! 

Hopefully….some of these changes in my life and schedule will allow me to blog and share some goodies along my life’s journey with you.  I still go back to my claim to fame….”I found my norm and it is a moving target”.  This seems to be a never ending reality in my life. Read my blog post about this if you haven’t already.

I would love to hear your comments where your life has brought you, and the changes that you have been able to make. What steps did you take along the way? Leave a comment below, and thank you for visiting with me today! 

 

Lynn A. C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

 

 

 

 

 

Sky Zone, Homeschool, Gym Time & Socialization….

It is aimg_7508lways great to have a family day out and it is even better when you can share it with friends!  We attend a homeschooled day out every other week at our semi-local Sky Zone.  If you have never heard of this it is a very large trampoline fun place as you can see in the pics.  Sky Zone does a great job of accommodating all ages and skill level and they keep the kids moving to each event they offer.

We meet up with some of our regular homeschooled friends we have made and also try to meet some new families each time we attend.  It is great to meet up with other homeschoolers from all different backgrounds, religions, and areas of NJ.  As much as we have our own faith and teach our children along that line….we also like them to know what others believe and even though we might not agree we can learn to be respectful of them as a person and a family.

How do you spend your gym days for Homeschooling?  Send a note below in the comments and tell us what you all do to have fun and still get some exercise in.

Lynn A.C. Wilson – Resume of a Mother

Time….No Time….Not Enough Time….

img_0321For the life of me I cannot remember what movie I heard this phrase from but my husband and I use it often in describing our days.  Do you have crazy days; do you feel like time is always running out?  I would love to know what it feels like to lay around all day, at least for just one day and watch TV, read a book, sip coffee and do absolutely nothing.  Ok….I need to wake up from that dream!!!

I was just emailing a friend last night and we were talking about all that we do as women.  Here was the list I gave her to describe myself and where I am in life right now…can you relate to this crazy life?

wife, mother, special needs mother of an Autistic son also with several other disabilities, driver of 4 non-driving family members, career woman, sister, daughter, niece, daughter-in-law, mother-in-law, home manager, accountant for our family’s needs, couponer, nurse to our kids, wife of an active epileptic husband, cook, wash woman, house cleaner, gardener, homemaker, blogger, speaker, crafter, women’s ministry coordinator, church member, church worker, friend, and I am sure I missed a few other wonderful title to add to the list.  As you can see this is how my blog became “Resume of a Mother”.

Ok, so where does our family’s needs, that phone call that comes in the middle of the day when someone needs your help etc…all fit in?

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My husband Graeme and I were just talking about this last night and he said….”In the hustle and bustle of life we can push people aside because we don’t have time, especially when it’s a family member”. How profound!!!! My husband is the wisest man I know and also is a man of few words….but when he gets on a roll, I learn so much from him.  His perspective on this was so thought-provoking!!! We have to remember it was only a year or so ago that some of these people took the time to teach us and help us.  Another great quote from my husband.

My oldest son is very much like me and is very independent and he does not need much help from anyone.  He is talented beyond with tech stuff, his career, knowing how to fix things and so much morefullsizerender-6.  I have warned him of two tips that I have learned and I am still learning…..1. When we are so independent we become so focused on the task and getting it done, that we can forget to allow the Lord to have the space to work in our lives.  Also we miss out on blessings of letting other into our lives.  That is not to say that we are not capable to do the task…but sometimes the Lord uses others in our lives to teach us, HUMBLE us, and to show us new things.  Also, when they are in the process of helping us…..it might be that the Lord needs to use them and to teach and show them something too, it is not always about us. 2. Be open and available to others and do not shut them out because “we can do this”.

I have to rethink and to take the time in my daily schedule to reach out to others, do some RAK things, listen, be available etc….  My life and schedule has taken a full swing of “full speed ahead” mode and I need to remember that I have family and friends that need me and that I need as well!

Old black phone with dust and scratchesCan I challenge you today to look at your life, and to see what time that you might need to tweak in order to spend with others? Do you keep some time open for when someone might call for help? Have you found yourself so busy that you cannot lend a hand when needed?  Do you find as I have that you say you are available as you stare at your cell phone and you are walking away as someone is trying to desperately talk to you and get your attention? Ouch…that just hurt!!!  How many times do I do this?  PUT THE PHONE DOWN LYNN!!!!

Let me know if you ever do an RAK’s or anything else special in the comments below…I would love to hear from you. Let me know your challenges that you have to find the time to share with family and friends.  How are you being creative with others?

Lynn A C Wilson – Resume of a Mother